I hate dating. I know it is supposed to be fun. That great time when you get to know someone, do fun things, have first kisses and such. I just wish that you could skip past it into a strong relationship. So here is why i hate to date:
1)It is a game, there are wierd rules and I dont understand them.
a) If i have a friend someone that i am comfortable with and I feel like hanging out I call them. If i am dating someone and I want to see them I have to wait so many days since last seeing them or calling them. Why I dont know but it is a rule.
2) You can't really open up or be yourself on a date, your trying to see what the other person does and doesn't like and do things that will make them like you. Everything you say or do your second guessing. Jokes you would normally make you wondering if they are to innoproriate. Since they don't really know you yet.
3) there has to be some activity for awhile. When your first dating you have to go do this or go do that. You can't just hang out like friends do. You can't just be together like people are after they are in a relationship for awhile.
4) After a date you have to say if it went well or bad. I usually after hanging out with friends was like that was fun. After a date you have to see if it was fun enough to try to do something again.
5) I think to much. During dates, after dates, and between dates my mind is going over a hundred things of what should and shouldn't be done. If i did this right or wrong. I begin to judge myself on things i have never questioned about who i am.
6) There isn't any spontanity. You have to call ahead make plans and blah blah blah. I want to roll by hang out. have them do the same.
7) It is like war and both sides are trying to figure out how to win.
8) Most women don't trust men, and most men don't trust women. This puts the entire evening in a bizarre what does this mean when they do that. What do they want?
Perhaps i need to learn to relax more. I should take sedatives before going out on dates. "Hi I am hear for a date, but i can't drive because i shouldn't operate heavy machinery."
My solution: pre arranged marriages. We should bring them back with a vengence. I mean the goverment should just take over. Then they roll dice and whom ever you end up with your married. Or they could bargin out good marriages in the interests of foriegn policy. Such as the french currently hate us. Give their Prime minister Cameron Diaz.
Maybe it isn't such a good idea, but there has to be a better system than how it works out now. divorce is over 50%. I don't think our current matching methods work so well.
Comments (7)
Dan, dating IS fun. I don't understand why you get so uptight and not yourself when you're on a date. The girl you're dating now has seen you at our parties, aren't you yourself then? Do you think she would have gone out with you if she didn't like what she saw?
Maybe I'm over confident because I've been on a million dates, but I never thought it was that bad. I still choke my first few times talking to a girl and I look like an ass, but by the time we go on a date I figure she must like me.
Posted by Dominic | September 13, 2003 2:54 PM
Posted on September 13, 2003 14:54
the best advice i can give is to just go out with an open mind. don't think about where things are going to end up. just hope you find a girl interesting and intelligent enough to have a fulfilling conversation with; that's a good night in my book. and why do you think the divorce rate is so high. it's because dumbasses are trying to be something they're not, and they can't hold out forever. go buffs!!
Posted by dave | September 13, 2003 6:26 PM
Posted on September 13, 2003 18:26
i understand what you're saying. it's like when you're first dating, you have to be "on" the whole time. it's a bunch of crap because at some point you will have to start being yourself and then you have to spend all of this extra time getting to know this new person that wasn't fully there when you were "dating". but its a double-edged sword, because if you're not playing by the rules when you're dating, you're written off as some sort of demented bastard and you have to start the whole dating process again with someone else. what a fucked up way to choose our mates.
Posted by vicki | September 14, 2003 2:38 AM
Posted on September 14, 2003 02:38
dan, i wanted to know if you would be interested in setting me up a blog. i would absolutely love to do something like this. give me an email either way and tell me if that's a possibility. thanks!
Posted by vicki | September 14, 2003 2:43 AM
Posted on September 14, 2003 02:43
i agree with you in alot of ways. i would rather skip dating and get to the good strong stable relationship part. but a big part of being able to have that comes from that first part of dating. also it can be fun, which everyone has said already. i'm sure you do fine. just don't be yourself....jk
scott
Posted by scott | September 15, 2003 10:50 AM
Posted on September 15, 2003 10:50
Dan,
You are right, dating sucks. The older you get the worse it gets. Im a 36 year old guy here in Columbus, Ohio, it is a HORROR here. Im considered good looking and funny...which is a ZERO advantage in this STUCK UP uptight nightmare city. PLUS 36 is like a death sentence for a guy. All the women 28 - 34 never want to date a guy over 35...WHAT THE F___? Worse...attractive women in this hellish snob town are about 1 for every 7 middle class guys plus one ugly rich asshole and a womanizing Arab. Meaning if you want someone with that ill-fated "nice" personality this place is mecca... Welcome to hell brother
Posted by Joel Brown | April 13, 2004 8:54 PM
Posted on April 13, 2004 20:54
Cameron Diaz to French Prime Minister? That was hilarious.
Posted by Val | January 24, 2007 12:45 PM
Posted on January 24, 2007 12:45